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IdeasWIN Unique e-Zine
A Newsletter for the Thoughtful Internet Marketer
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Issue 57 August 9, 2001
Editor: Christopher Stephenson, mailto:Chris at IdeasWIN.com
Publisher: http://www.IdeasWIN.com
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In This Issue
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CONGRATULATIONS!
1. Let's Get Started:WINNER*-Moses.Ajibade@unon.org
2. IdeasWIN RECOMMENDS: Heartwarmers!
3. In the Spotlight: Funzines
4. Feature Article: Fitting In
5. Friends of the Business: DialPad
6. Guest Article: I Don't Fit In
7. Subscription Management
8. Contact Information
9. The Last Word: PONDER POINTS
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1. Let's Get Started!
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WOW! Welcome ALL you new Members. Welcome to our family. Let
me keep this short, 'cause this week the articles are long.
And NO I am not apologizing - and you will see why as you
read on. A request. Read the Guest Article by Lee Simonson
first as my article is my reaction to his story.
And now....Let's Get Started!
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2. IdeasWIN RECOMMENDS
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I believe we all need uplifting. And if you are the kind of
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4. Today's Feature Article
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PLEASE READ THE GUEST ARTICLE FIRST!
We all feel the same in life. Because, by and large, we are.
We all struggle with feelings of inadequacy from time to
time. But if we let it get the best of us it can become
almost impossible to succeed in our endeavors.
"I came to find out that everyone, sooner or later, feels
like they don't fit in." There is a reason that silly movies
like "Revenge of the Nerds" and "Porkys" and so many others
made a hit. They pointed out that ALL of us are made to feel
left out at some point in our lives. And they point out that
we can accept those who are unlike us in one way or another,
if we want to.
Without a doubt there are times when others do that to us.
They leave us out. It is tough to deal with until we settle
on our personal worth. What we can do is become aware that
WE all sometimes pass judgment on others and lock them out
mentally. When it happens to us - we know it - and when it
is done to another - they know it too.
But much of the time our feelings are based in personal
insecurity.
Outward appearances of people we don't know often get to us.
After all we look around us and "Everyone else seems to be
happy." But are they? Certainly no more so then we are. We
allow ourselves to be 'snowed' by outward appearances when,
if we just thought on it, we'd realize that we also put on a
'face' for others.
To just be who you are is a tough admonition. Often we don't
know. "If you aren't settled and comfortable with yourself
first, you'll be a fish out of water. Be confident about
what you believe. Be true to your feelings. You don't have
to pretend to be someone else."
Once you have developed a true sense of yourself - an honest
feeling that you are as good as anyone else - you face the
world differently.
The minute you take that attitude the entire world SEES you
and who you are for the first time.
Do it right is not what we hear anymore. It is all 'play to
win' and 'the end determines the means.' These sayings look
so good on the surface, but look deeper. After all, Hitler
believed in both those. If the world read and believed his
book "Mein Kampf" - there would have been no one surprised
by his actions. Any means to an end gets truly ugly.
"They don't teach the Golden Rule in school" anymore. Why? I
don't know. There are times (a lot of them) when I feel that
in our rush to more forward, in the fast lane, so-to-speak,
we have made a serious mistake.
We have decided that what WAS good has lost it's meaning.
There is an attitude that anything from 100-50-10 years ago
is so outmoded as to be wrong. Marriage WAS the backbone of
society. Honesty WAS the best policy. A government of the
people by the people WAS what made America great.
What is wrong with this feeling is obvious when approached
candidly. What We Were Got Us Here. How simple! What we did
right needn't be thrown out with what we did wrong just
because it came to us from our parents or ancestors!
If each of us strives to live 'The Golden Rule' our life
will be MORE Golden. Will it be perfect? We aren't, none of
us, so no. It will just allow more blessings to come our way
when we allow blessings to go to others through our actions
of acceptance.
By using that belief in self, that knowledge that our
'value' as a human is equal to ANY other's 'value' as a
human we can look at life differently. That allows us to
take ANY circumstance and view it with a "sense of
adventure." We can then look at even negative things like an
IRS audit or a yearly job rating as a learning experience.
Now don't box me in here. There are of course times of
danger and other extremely bad circumstances when that
attitude would be stupid.
What AM I saying? Approach it right. Believe in yourself.
Know you are not perfect, but do your best in working toward
that. Then you can win in life more, much much more.
Till next time. Good luck and God Bless.
Remember, IdeasWIN. Develop yours, Chris
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6. Guest Article
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A friend of mine witnessed what I am about to tell you.
Several years ago, a well dressed older gentleman entered an
elevator in a tall office building, apparently consumed with
whatever business he was taking care of that day.
It was mid-afternoon of the work day, and there were only
three people on that elevator -- the gentleman, a middle-
aged woman and my friend -- all being transported down to
the street level.
Out of the blue, the woman starts crying. Taken aback, the
gentleman and my friend didn't know what to say or do.
"I'm sorry. I'm making a spectacle of myself," said the
woman, sobbing and searching her purse for a handkerchief.
The gentleman offered her his.
"Thank you," she said, "I just don't know anymore. I'm
usually not like this, but I just don't know anymore."
"I'm sure everything will turn out fine -- don't you worry,
Miss," he said.
"No. No. It's not that. I have so much to be grateful
for," she said as she shook her head. "It's not what you
think."
Not wanting to pry, her elevator mates stood speechless.
"It's just that I don't fit in. I've never fit in. I do
everything I'm supposed to do, but I don't feel like I
belong," she said, wiping the tears from her eyes. The
elevator continued its downward journey as the distraught
woman tried to compose herself. "I'm so embarrassed. You'll
have to pardon me. Things have just caught up to me," she
said.
"Miss, I have something I want to tell you, if you have just
a minute," the old man said. The elevator opened as they
reached the lobby.
"Oh yes, please, I need to get my mind focused on
something," she said.
They left the elevator and walked into the busy lobby. The
old man turned to my friend, and invited him to join them.
By this time, my friend's curiosity had got the best of him.
The old man's face had some well worn lines. His gray hair
bespoke of his experience, and his dark eyes peered over his
bifocals, lending confidence to his words. "I don't know
what your situation is Ma'am," he said politely. "However, I
was in the same boat many years ago. And while I was in my
little personal crisis, I felt the same way. Moreover, I
came to find out that everyone, sooner or later, feels like
they don't fit in."
"Sometimes it happens early in life in school. Teenagers are
thrown together with strangers and told to fit in. It's
almost an impossible situation. Then, the same thing
happens at work, or with your neighbors at home. You always
feel like you are the odd man out. Everyone else seems
to be happy. They look comfortable. They look like they
belong, and you always feel like you are an intrusion. I
know all about that," said the old man.
"I know exactly what you're saying," the woman said as she
nodded in agreement.
"A lot of people avoid those feelings by limiting contact.
Watching television, or reading books, or sitting in front
of a computer provides a comfort zone, and if you can afford
to do that, I suppose that's fine if that's what you want to
do. However, for many of us, the real world cannot be
escaped. We have to work. We have to make a living. And we
have to interact with relatives and strangers in settings
everyday. And, Ma'am, this is what I want to tell you..."
"You see, it's all in how you look at it. Some people face
those feelings and settings with a sense of adventure.
Others face the same situation with dread. Yes, we all have
different personalities and some of us are more sensitive
and vulnerable than others. However, if you can remember
just a couple of things, it will make your life a whole lot
easier," he said.
"Do you work in this building?" he asked.
"Yes," she said.
"Well, this is my first time here and I had no idea where I
was going, and had never met the person I was going to see.
Now, who is the one who feels like they don't fit in?" he
asked. "But, somehow, I got through it, and I'll be walking
out that front door in a minute without a scratch."
She and my friend chuckled.
"You can safely assume that the people you are interacting
with feel as out of place as you do. So, you simply
practice the Golden Rule and make them feel as comfortable
as you can. They don't teach the Golden Rule in school, so
this is something you have to pick up along the way. Suffice
it to say, if you make others feel comfortable, they will
reciprocate."
"Second, remember that in order to sense that feeling of
belonging, you have to feel you belong to yourself. In
other words, if you aren't settled and comfortable with
yourself first, you'll be a fish out of water. Be confident
about what you believe. Be true to your feelings. You
don't have to pretend to be someone else. Just be yourself
and let the world appreciate what you have to offer.
Everyone is good at something, including you. Offer what
you are good at, and who knows, maybe the world might even
pay you for it!", the old man said as he started to laugh.
"You're not alone," he said as he patted the woman's
shoulder. "Don't go nuts trying to force yourself to fit
in. There are too many holes and too many pegs out there to
even try. Just have a little faith in yourself, associate
with people who lift you up, and you'll soon find folks
coming to you for help. And when you get lost in helping
them, you won't even think about fitting in. At that point,
you won't be looking at life, you'll be a part of it."
"Oh, thank you," she said, as the old man walked toward the
street.
My friend just stood there, not saying a word. At that
split second of awkwardness, the woman and my friend
extended their hands and shook.
"Nice to meet you," they both said at the same time. And
then, just as quickly and simultaneously, they said, "Have a
nice day," as they both went in different directions.
While they never knew each others' names, it was a flash
encounter they would never forget.
-- Lee Simonson
As seen in http://www.Heartwarmers.com
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